Two sisters were wrestling on the couch, and the fun was getting out of control. I told them multiple times to stop. They ignored me. I warned them that one of them was going to get hurt. They ignored me.
WHAM! The 5 year old slammed her head hard against the couch frame, and looked at me with equal parts fury, panic, sheepishness, and pain.
My mistake: My immediate reaction was not one of sympathy but of annoyance. "Didn't I JUST tell you that you were going to get hurt? Didn't I JUST SAY TO STOP???" Within about 5 seconds, I was feeling bad for her throbbing head and trying to coax her into my arms for a little love. She was having none of that.
She spent the next 10 minutes sobbing in a heap on the couch, holding her head, and screaming: "I MEANT TO DO THAT! I MEANT TO DO THAT!"
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